On July 31, 2013, on this blog I published “Internet Dating-A Woman’s Perspective- The Man from Ghana.
Since then, the article was read by hundreds of people around the world. What follows may be considered Part II of the July 31, 2013 post, and as everything written on The Nude Truth, this story is true.
It seems to be cyclical, every two years, my curiosity to discover what is happening out there, in the internet “dating” world. This time, I started my research with the clear goal to learn, so that I could write an informed post to help others and see the humor in what is happening in the internet dating world. The Ghana man experience from 2013 was enough. As they say, “fool me once, fool me twice…”
I was online for a total of 7 days before I deleted my profile. In one week, I received 161 “views,” 93 “likes,” and 47 messages.
Before I joined a couple of sites, I Googled:
Top Internet Dating Sites, and the search produced five sites. Among them, Match.com and OKCupid, etc.
I checked out several other paid sites, not listed in the top five, which advertised “free memberships,” but in reality, a “free profile,” was not made public until one paid! Not that free, after all.
Still, it helped me determine an important fact: I checked out a few men and women’s profiles. What struck me was that most women desired a relationship within 10 to 50 miles from their homes, while the men wanted long distance relationships, ranging from 700 miles to 3,000! The conclusion is yours!
The top five sites, each, had clients’ ratings listed next to them and the most ratings were given by OKCupid, which is a free dating site, on which one could use their Facebook account to sign up. Easy and your privacy is guaranteed…
I signed up on OK Cupid, which was free.
Within minutes, I received so many messages that I had to turn off my laptop, take a deep breathe and relax, or rather focus on reality: Who were all these people? Was I THAT attractive? Really!!!
To mind came the women on the Dr. Phil Show, who sent hundreds of thousands of dollars to men they never met, outside the USA.
Well, that would not me, definitely, as I have difficulty comprehending the concept of someone becoming destitute believing in the illusion of so called “love…”
How could one fall in love with a picture? A Voice? How about chemistry? My definition of chemistry is one reaches out and shakes a hand, gets a hug. A direct, undeniable attraction between two people. Still, people do fall in love with the idea of love, and sadly, despite the clear warnings on ALL DATING SITES, to not send money abroad or to people one meets on the Internet, people still repeat the mistake!
Anyway, what have I experienced during this one week adventure on the internet dating scene?
At least 1/4 were men who presented profiles featuring pictures of themselves (may be, but I doubt) their child or children or an older parent. I guess the idea was, they cared. they were good family men.
90% of those with whom I exchanged messages told me they were widowed and were single parents. It was painful and hard!!!
The ONE FEATURE THEY HAD IN COMMON:
The initial profiles stated they were in the United States, but after a second email exchange, they “entrusted” me with a secret: THEY WERE ON A SPECIAL MISSION, ABROAD!!!
All, wanted to take the chat off the dating site and offered Facebook accounts, to friend me and chat. I insisted on me getting their information, which they were happy to oblige.
I checked out one Facebook account. A “pilot!” Yes, you read it correctly. An Air Force officer, putting his life out on a limb for you and I! Wow! How lucky could a woman get after being on line less than 48 hours?LOL
On a thorough examination of his Facebook account, it became clear he started the FB account a few months ago and, how silly is this? On the public timeline, there were messages from various women stating how much they missed him, as he was in the air, I guess…
What else? Oh, yes! The profiles were written in good English but as the back and forth emails started, the more they wrote, the worse their English became. It must have been the anxiety of finding love!
After three days of figuring out the “outside of the USA segment,” I wrote a paragraph on my profile, under the Heading, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH YOUR LIFE? (my life, that was!)
I stated, the one thing I was not doing was interested in overseas relationships.
The overseas secret mission people stopped emailing me!
A much smaller, local segment continued to write. The only one which I would mention, was a man who wrote:
“I am a former intelligent, Intelligence Agent… etc” Then he told me he was also a pilot and had his own plane and was just about to go “take off for an hour or so, just to be in the air,” but what HE didn’t know, was the web site showed me every time someone checked my profile. So, while he was “in the air,” the dating site alerted me he was checking my profile. It was funny, but forgivable, since he stated from the beginning, he was “FORMER INTELLIGENT.”
I was tempted to keep going for a while, but the local pilot, asked a question which determined me to end the budding relationship and delete my account.
He asked: Do you own or rent? Is it an apartment, or a house?
How was this his business? Was he fishing for free housing? Oh… may be he wanted to buy me a house and I missed the opportunity!
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