How To Deal With SPAM Comments!!!

I LOVE Spam comments! They teach me first hand what NOT to do and at the end of the day, I find them funny!

First, I must thank Word Press for their excellent computerized system, which prevents most spam comments to get in the “questionable q. line,” that I take the time to review.

Why do I take the time to read them?

Many times comments are in languages other than English. For instance, I found great comments written in Romanian, my native language, in the “ify” category, just because they were written in Romanian, it didn’t mean they were spam. They were valid comments which I “saved.”

Also,  it may come as a shock, but many people around the world do not write in good English, so I have to play the “guessing” game and respect the effort and make a judgement:


After almost five years of blogging, I developed an “eye” for fake comments and would like to share with other bloggers my observations.

In my opinion, spam could be divided in a few categories. Here there are a few:

1. The “vague” comment: “Great post! Keep-up the good job!”

2. The “critique” comment: ” Have others told you they have  problems with reading your blog, because the “text is running off the page???”

3. Many times THE SAME Site owner who told me they had a problem with text running off the page, would write another spam comment, telling me how “WELL” they could read the post and contradicting their previous statement.

4. The “I  clicked the notify button, and now I receive everyone’s comments, how do I stop it?” Well… there is NO “notify” button:)  so in your dream, click unfollow.

5. The worst kind are the sexual spam comments, the penis enlargement, Russian brides, wives who could be your next door neighbors ready to have discrete sex for a fee.

How do I know? Because I  TRY to click on each side from which a comment comes, to make sure the site is legitimate and it does not promote articles which are not in line with certain values I try to promote. Not that I have anything against large penises, but I will not promote them on my site. Sorry guys.

Some quick ways to scan spam:

Look if the comment comes in response to one of your MOST popular posts, but the comment has nothing to do with the topic. For instance, one of my posts has over 800 comments. It was a scheme I shared a while ago and which “touched” many. As a result many genuinely shared THEIR experiences, but that “triggered” the computerized spam machines too…

Determine if the comment is simply an advertisement for a product and again, it has NO connection to the topic of your post.

If someone comments “I LOVE the video,” on your site, and you did not post a video, that is a problem:)

Then, there are the spam comments asking you how to get rid of spam.

Oh well…I guess, read this post:)

In conclusion, spam, hacking, porn sites, are the down side of an active internet presence. If we don’t want the down side, there is the choice of not having profiles on various networks, or to  do what I’m attempting to do now, which is notice the funny side of the annoying while learning to  limit and deal with it.

My Response To Similar Comments To My Posts

1400793219461Hello Everyone and thank you for continuing to visit and read the posts on my blog.

I am trying to respond personally to EACH comment, but when the comments are inappropriate or simply an advertisement for a product, or  related to sexuality (including the mention of viagara) I will NOT respond personally.

Why? one might ask her/himself? Simply because by responding I have to list the contact info of the person or company which/who commented. In other words I will NOT reward computer generated comments, rude comments, advertisements or porn.

However, some of the comments are intentionally or unintentionally funny and this is why I decided to share some “types” of comments with you.

I hope they will bring a smile to you, as they did to me…

1. Comments which state that other commentators seem to be “brain dead!” What in God’s name makes one think that I would post such comments?

This blog is read by people from 22 PLUS countries. Not everyone knows English, but many people know enough to derive the benefits of learning about a topic of interest to them. I am NOT going to honor rudeness by posting insulting comments. I am a bilingual person and it took me years of struggle to speak and write in English as well as in my native language, Romanian. I assure you, on the long journey of learning, I was not “brain dead.”

2. Comments which call me “DUDE.”

I explained this before, but I still get the “dude” comments:)) I am a WOMAN. ONE. That’s IT.

3. The comments asking me technical questions. So sorry, but those types of questions are really in bad luck. 😦

I am technologically speaking illiterate and wish I weren’t.

In fact, I would like to partner with someone who is technologically literate, so if you are, or know of someone who would like to work with me strictly  on the IT part of my blog, have them email me at

4. Comments which ask me to LIST ALL my social media resources (Facebook, Linkedin, Instagram,  Twitter, Pintrest, Stumbble upon,  etc)

While I do have accounts on a majority of them, what I PUBLISH on this BLOG, is automatically published on ALL of the other accounts.

The BEST way to keep updated on what I publish, is to FOLLOW this blog

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5. Comments which ask me if people “steal my work.” Because the issue of stealing intellectual property came up so often, I wrote an entire article on PLAGIARISM, a while ago. Any person who is truly a writer, knows that one MUST give the source of one’s information. One must give the well deserved credit to the person who wrote the information.

Do people “steal” my work? May be yes, may be no…

I have a versatile blog, I put  hundreds of hours of research in the posts which give information about  specific, practical  topics. If someone steals the information, shame on them!

A large portion of my writing is based on very personal experiences and written with my very personal sense of humor. Could people steal this type of writing? Probably, but anyone who reads  anything by me, would know.

At last, the poetry and essays.

This type of writing comes to me from a source some call God, some Muse, some “a gift.” It may be called whatever one wishes but the truth is, when one expresses  this type of writing, we, as writers, are  facilitators  of ideas coming from a source  superior to us, humans.

In conclusion, please continue to read and comment and share YOUR experiences.

If your English is not perfect, so what? I bet the type of a person who has the indecency to call another “brain dead,” might be brain-dead him/herself.

I cannot make the rules on other blogs but on THIS blog, there are NO silly questions and all comments are welcome and will be answered as long as they do not belong in any of the categories stated above.

So… “dudes and dudettes,” :)) FEEL FREE to comment!  Your comments are valuable and so are YOU!!!

We are learning together!

Warm wishes,